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Hi, it's Julie!
Ready for some excitement? I have two new photos to make you happy, and a new article called "Online Dating After Divorce," something many men deal with.
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As traumatic as it may be to you as an individual, understand this: divorce is NOT uncommon. In fact, 50% of marriages end in divorce, so dating after divorce is not uncommon either. Getting back in the dating game can be confusing, but the good news is, despite the self pity of many men, it hasn't changed all that much. Women are still attracted to men for the same reasons they always are, and they are not going to consider you a failure because you got divorced.
Yes, you can date successfully after divorce IF you avoid the pitfalls most men fall into. In fact, you can use it as an opportunity to find a woman more suited to you, turning tragedy into triumph.
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Enjoy, and stay tuned for tomorrow's photo, I think you'll really like her...
XOXO, Julie Young, Attraction Assistant to John Alanis
P.S. Be sure to scroll down so you can read John's newsletter update, Online Dating After Divorce
Online Dating After Divorce
Sadly, it happens to about 50% of men who get married- for whatever reason, things go bad, really bad, and your marriage turns into a divorce. Sometimes you're married young, you make a rash decision, and things don't work out. But, you get away clean, no kids, not much to split up, she goes her way, you go yours, live and learn.
More often than not, however, it's a lot worse. You've been married a decade or more, it started out great, but then along came kids, a house, a mortgage, a steady paycheck job, and incredible boredom- and things just go bad, really bad. Then the lawyers get involved, and you find out how much you have to pay for what you thought you already had.
There are custody battles, splitting up of assets, and lawyers fees, lots of them. They try to take everything you have, everything you built, while assuring you that you are going to "win." It's a big lie, the only people who win a divorce are lawyers.
If there is any good news it's that, at some point, a divorce ends. At least the legal proceedings do, the financial and custody consequences can last years. But you learn to live with them, and eventually you get to the point where you are ready to start dating again, you are ready to meet another, better woman.
Many recently divorced men are confused when it comes to dating. After all, they've been out of the game for decades, don't remember it much, and think dating has somehow changed. It hasn't, of course, human nature never does, but it just feels that way. What has changed is there are more ways to meet women than ever before, but that's a plus, not a minus.
The biggest mistake most divorced men make when it comes to dating again it that they approach it with a negative, morose view and if you do that, you have no chance at all. They wonder if a woman will like them because they have kids and custody battles, or financial issues, or that they are somehow "damaged goods." And the ultimate sin they commit is they whine about their divorce.
Understand this- a woman doesn't care about your divorce. And she doesn't see it as uncommon, after all, 50% of marriages end in divorce. That's reality, and women know that. They deal with it all the time, and it doesn't matter to them. What matters to them is how you make them feel.
If you're still down about your divorce, now is not the time to start online dating. Sure, you can put up an online dating profile and start to get a feel for interacting with women, but if you are too low to meet a woman in person and have a good time, wait until you are feeling better before you start dating, online or otherwise.
Your dating success is contingent upon you projecting good energy and making a woman feel good. Hey, if you've had some adversity and overcome it, that's admirable and respectable, and women find it attractive. But if you wallow and moan about something over 50% of married men eventually deal with, she will just have no respect for you. She wants to know how you will make her feel, both now and in the future.
Don't lie about your divorce, be up front about it, but then move on. If she wants hear about it, she'll ask, but find the humor in it, don't wallow in self pity. Women want a man who will face adversity head on and rise to the occasion. Sure, she knows you feel bad, but a real man won't put his bad feelings on a woman.
The good news is you CAN date online after divorce, and the better news is, there are plenty of women who are happy to date a divorced man, kids or no kids. After all, 50% of married women have been through divorce too.
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I really hope you enjoyed your two photos and this article, I will have more photos and another great article for you tomorrow to help you with women and online dating!
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